Okay okay okay.. What would be more fun going out getting drunk or staying in and studying? Well obviously going out. But is it really? Is this really what college is all about? Don’t get me wrong college is supposed to be the time of your life and you are supposed to have fun but where is the line between having fun and being smart.
Once or twice a year a new group of young adults join the ranks of the free, breaking out of their parent’s nests to explore the world on their own and join hundreds of other young people at college. This is a time for college kids to find themselves, learn new things, and meet new friends. Unfortunately, for many college go-ers, this is also a time for experimentation with alcohol and drugs. As a parent of a college student there are things that you should know and things you can do to help your child make responsible decisions and avoid many of the problems associated with drinking while they’re away at school.
Many parents dont think there is anything they can do about what their child does while away at college. This is NOT true what so ever. Infact talking to your kids about making responsible decisions and their consiquences for their action will have a huge influence on them. Having a serious discussion about alcohol and its consequences or a phone call once a week to see how things are can make a difference for many young adults. At first they may blow you off and insist that you’re bugging(which is completely normal) them but if you are persistent they may refer to your advice one day when they have a choice to make: responsible or irresponsible.
Never never never come across as a strict parent. Always give them their freedom to make their own choices and I will you tell you they will be more responsible. They will feel as if you are trying to control them otherwise and WILL rebel against you.
Here are some helpful tips to help you and your college student in regards to drinking…
- Let your son or daughter know that you’re available if they need help, even if it is just to talk.(or if they need a ride)
- Talk about the facts of alcohol and effects of drinking as well as reasons not to drink.
- Tell them how to find help on campus for themselves or a friend.
- Make sure they know the penalties for underage or excessive drinking.
- Stay in contact once school starts. Ask how they’re feeling, ask about their experiences, roommates and friends and if they’re enjoying activities and classes.
- Understand the school’s parental notification policy.
- Try to add to their schedule at least one Friday class. Studies show that people who have no classes or activities on Fridays begin their weekend partying earlier than those that do.
- Attend parent’s weekends and events on campus.
Let your kids be kids. But let them know that you are here for them whenever they will need you most.